Your Partner is Your Life Direction

Before getting married, everyone of us is the king/queen of our lifes. We set our own life directions.
After getting married, most of us 'surrender' this option to our spouses. Why? Its just natural. Especially the guys.

We let our wives (in most cases) to decide our future. From purchasing of simple households to major investments.
This also happens to wives (sometimes & very rare).

Lets look back for a moment. How are we now? Happy? Living the life we wanted? Accomplished life goals? Looking forward for another decade of exciting life together?
Your answers are your happiness index.

My interviews with many married couples indicates unhappiness over 'control of life' issues.
Both do not wish to be controlled. Usually the guys give in.

My suggestion are:
1. From day one (first date) be sincere about yourself. Talk about likes and dislikes.
2. Always remind your partner of our dreams and future plannings.
3. Marriage is not the end of dreams and achievements.